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Understanding Sexual Urge, Arousal, and Intercourse: A Call to Wisdom


Dear teenager, it’s important to understand the differences between sexual urge, sexual arousal, and sexual intercourse. These are natural parts of human biology, but without proper guidance, they can lead to confusion and mistakes that have lasting consequences. Ecclesiastes 3:1 reminds us, “To everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven.” There is a proper time and context for everything, and as a teenager, you must embrace foresight and wisdom to navigate these feelings.

Sexual urges are the natural desires that arise due to hormones and biological development. They are not sinful in themselves but must be controlled. James 1:14-15 warns, “But each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin.” Recognize that urges are a part of life, but allowing them to lead you into temptation is dangerous. Discipline your mind and body with the help of God’s Word.

Sexual arousal, on the other hand, is the physical response to stimuli, often triggered by thoughts, images, or interactions. While it may seem harmless, dwelling on arousing thoughts or exposing yourself to triggers can open the door to sin. Romans 13:14 advises, “Clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the flesh.” Guard your heart and mind by being mindful of what you watch, listen to, and entertain.

Sexual intercourse is the physical act designed by God for the covenant of marriage. Hebrews 13:4 declares, “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” The world may try to convince you that sexual activity outside of marriage is normal or acceptable, but God’s design for sex is tied to commitment, love, and purity within the bond of marriage. Trust in His plan and avoid shortcuts that lead to heartbreak.

Dear teenager, the devil is a deceiver who tries to blur the lines between what is right and wrong. Don’t let him trick you into making choices that could derail your future. Proverbs 4:7 says, “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” Seek God’s wisdom through His Word, stay accountable to mentors who can guide you, and make choices that honor your body, mind, and spirit. Embrace foresight, and trust that God has a beautiful plan for your life.

Prince Victor Matthew 

Hope Expression Values You. 

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