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When Should I Start Dating?

What is dating?

Dating - even thou is generally accepted by believers - it is fully different from the kingdom concept.

Dating is opposite gender having romantic and sexual affair

From God's perceptive - here is the order of priority.
1. Attraction

2. Likeness

3. Love

4. Relationship 

5. Courtship 

6. Marriage

Here is the world concept
1. Attraction 

2. Dating

3. Courtship 

4. Marriage

Compare and see the two pattern
As you can see - some things are skipped.

Even thou many believer in Christ are used to the world - dating!

The right approach is *relationship*

Don't forget - the question is still - WHEN SHOULD I START DATING?

 Here is my first answer

Don't date; relate!

Don't date; relate means build relationship with the consciousness of your true worth in Christ

You can engage in a relationship after you have discovered and define the following through God's word

1. Your identity

2. Your calling

3. Your purpose.

4. Your vision

Relationship is not for fun or pleasure but the coming together of two healthy individual for teamwork in the direction of fulfilling purpose and pleasing God

The major heart break teenager have is because "they always skip the stage of friendship" and the embrace "dating"

Ask a teenager that apart from kissing and sex - what more is there to dating; they will be short of words

In dating; kissing, petting and sex is the major activity

In relationship; sharing of dreams, vision and purpose with the aim of constant improvement and purpose fulfilment.

I don't blame you teenagers because even the youths have model the wrong concept of what relationship represent!

My second answer is

Relate; Relationship.

You can engage in relationship when what God has told you and about your future is in agreement with who this lady or man represent either in character, words or motive.

Here is what every teenager must know

If you feel inferior as a person while single - going into a relationship won't make you feel superior 

If you feel lonely as a single - even in relationship you will feel lonely

Here is my third answer! 

When you should engage in a relationship is when *you are alone!* 

Alone with God. 
Alone in your calling.
Alone in your purpose.
Alone in your vision.
Alone in your talent and creativity.
Alone in your identity in Christ

Alone is the freedom from other people's opinion and your courage to value what you have - and feeling secure with what you lack.

Adam was alone but was not lonely.

Don't date; relate

Then the question is "what have you got to share?"

Relating or relationship is the act of giving and receiving 

Do you have the capacity to add value to some ones life? 

Can you support some ones vision or dream? 

What's the quality of help you have offered yourself?

Immature teenagers (male) making the pursuit of sex, kissing, porn, pride, ego and fame a priority. 

Matured teenagers (male) makes the pursuit of their calling, purpose, vision, talent, and creativity a priority 

Are you matured?
(Male)

Immature teenagers (female) will always ask "who will date me? When will a guy ask me out?"

Matured teenagers (female) will always ask "why am I here? Why did God create me a female? What's my calling? What's my purpose? What's my vision? What's my talent and creativity?"

Are you matured?
(female)

There is another I want you to considered

Teenagers have floods of knowledge but *understanding and wisdom is missing some how!*

Patience to listen and ask more question for clarity is the strength of any successful teenager

Relationship is about commitment and your being committed to some one else.

But before you release your self to be committed to some one else; how committed are you to your self, your self development, your walk with the Lord, your talent, your creativity and your calling?

Relationship is all about respect some one.

But before you commit your respect to some one; how much respect have you placed on your time, your self, your walk with God, your talent and creativity?

Teenager season of your life is the *training season* of your life.

While some teenagers are hungry for relationship - some teenagers are hungry for impact

Please tell me, what impact do you want to make in your street, church and school before you turn 20 years?

What will be said about you when you become 20 years? 

Will it be the list of the guys or ladies you have dated? 

Will it be list of the number of ladies or guys you have kissed? 

Will be it the list of the night clubs or parties you have visited? 

Will it be the list of the number of sex you've had? 

Please, be sincere with yourself.

What will be said about you when you turn 20years and what are you presently doing daily to achieve this target?

Teenagers with Purpose
So, tell me - when do you think is right to embrace relationship?

Drop your comment below.
I want to read your view.
Thank you.
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